Self-Compassion: ‘Treat Yourself’ Better

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Love After Love by Derek Walcott

The time will come
when, with elation,
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror,
and each will smile at the other’s welcome,
and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was your self.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you

all your life, whom you ignored
for another, who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,

the photographs, the desperate notes,
peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.

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The Ongoing Process of Defining Ones Identity

dandelion, flower, sunset


“Identity is something that you are constantly earning. It is a process that you must be active in.” – Joss Whedon


Two weeks ago I moved… hence the lack of posts. This was neither a quick nor easy decision but one I had been mulling over for a long time. Moving is always stressful but for me this move was also intertwined with an identity crisis of sorts… Let me add some context to the story for you. My life and my sense of self-identity changed quite rapidly a few years back. This change came about due to illness. This illness invaded every single part of my life, and I have been trying to put the puzzle pieces back together ever since. It has taught me (and continues to teach me) many things. Some of which I will share on ‘A Journey of Steps’. But it doesn’t define me nor will it define this blog – it’s just part of my story right now.

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The April Monthly Review – Stress: Friend or Foe?

The April Review

Welcome to another round of the monthly review. A bit later than I anticipated…. But make yourself comfortable, grab a cup of tea, and join me as I ponder over some different viewpoints on stress.

How Do You View Stress?

Is it something to wage a war against and build up a wall of resistance? What is the difference between pressure and stress? What about ‘good’ versus ‘bad’ stress? How come some people strive on stress whilst others feel overwhelmed? I haven’t got all the answers, but the following articles and TED talk did make me ponder a little bit more on the whole concept of stress.

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Writing: The question of ‘why?’


“The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing.” – Albert Einstein


I have been debating lately about the nature of this blog, and the why? behind it. I am not a natural writer. An analytical/technical thinker…. yes! I have that down pat. Although sometimes to my own detriment! But when it comes to putting pen to paper – it’s a slow, hard slog. My brain fervently connects snippets of information and ideas; although when it comes to the actual process of writing – I have a serious case of self-doubt.

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The Monthly Review – March


“Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking.” – Steve Jobs


The March Review

Do you have a personal lens in which you view the world through? One that can be filled with opinions, biases, beliefs and numerous schools of thought. One that can confine us and define us, as being either this way or that way. Thinking in a black or white manner, where the shades of gray are often ignored. Static in our beliefs. I know I do.  But what if we allowed ourselves “the uncomfortable luxury” of changing our minds? This is the Number 1 lesson by writer Maria Popova, after 10 years of curating the ever so insightful blog BrainPicking’s. A blog that only entered my radar this past year….


“It’s enormously disorienting to simply say, “I don’t know.” But it’s infinitely more rewarding to understand than to be right — even if that means changing your mind about a topic, an ideology, or, above all, yourself.” – Maria Popova’s, BrainPickings


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When Change is Difficult: Do Some Mind Gardening


“We are survivors of immeasurable events,

Flung upon some reach of land,

Small, wet miracles without instructions,

Only the imperative of change.” – Rebecca Elson, Evolution


Spring…. a time associated with renewal, growth, change and all that jazz. But for me honestly the last few weeks have been tinged with a hefty dose of procrastination…. A feeling of grief that tends to rear its ugly head around this time of year…. Falling down the comparison rabbit hole, and just about every other emotion in-between. Don’t get me wrong it hasn’t been all bad! Beautiful sunsets, belly aching laughs and mouth-watering cupcakes are testaments to just some of the lighter and brighter moments.

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A Step Towards Adventure: Micro-Adventures


In a previous post I described “The Art of Adventure”, and alluded to the idea that if we interspersed life with some mini adventures, perhaps we could awaken that inner explorer that’s within us all. Maybe we might gain some nuggets of wisdom to apply to the main journey of life. Or, just gain a few stories and have some fun along the way!! Either way, win-win situation. So in my quest to learn more, and gain some idea’s for mini-adventures, I came across the concept of “Micro-Adventures”. 

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The Monthly Review – February

Photo of White and Red Petal Flower Under Blue Sky


“Is the spring coming?” he said. “What is it like?”. . . “It is the sun shining on the rain and the rain falling on the sunshine . . .” – Frances Hodgson Burnett, The Secret Garden


The February Review

Welcome to the February Monthly Review! Here you will find a snippet of things I have seen, heard or read that offered me some food for thought. I hope you find something of interest within.

So let’s do this thing. 😀

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The Guest House: Life as Poetry in Motion

Book: The Essential Rumi, Translated by Coleman Barks with John Moyne


Its been almost 3 years since I have first heard the words of Rumi’s “The Guest House”. Rumi, a 13th century Persian poet and Sufi mystic, whose work transcends culture, religion, time, and other perceived boundaries. His work strives to connect humanity and create unity. His wisdom just as vital today as 800 years ago.

Life as Poetry in Motion….

His poem “The Guest House” is a true example of life being poetry in motion. A timely reminder to embrace the good, the bad and the whole spectrum of life experiences and emotions in between. Because there is a spectrum that is for sure. It’s a poem that deeply resonated with me 3 years ago and one I come back to time and time again. It offers me the comfort and courage to face and embrace that spectrum.

This is life…. this is being human…. this is aliveness… play with what life has to offer…. find your sense of humor… embrace it all….

Cause everyone needs a good classic and I hope these words give you some solace, as they do for me.

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The Monthly Review – January (Part 2)


Last week brought you Part 1 of The Monthly Review for January. A series of monthly reviews I am hoping to do throughout the year. For me, I hope it will act as something tangible to reflect on at the end of the year – things I have seen, heard, read… that made me ponder. I’m hoping for you the reader, these reviews might add some food for thought and start a dialogue on your very own monthly reviews.

The January Review

So here we go – Part 2. 😀

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